In my last blog for 2016 I want to share some insights into where to start when it comes to creating the life you really want in 2017.
Personally, I have had an amazing year this year and a large part of that is because I have loved this blogging journey, writing regularly for you and hearing your thoughts about what I have shared about living a richer, juicier life. It has enriched my life and brought me great joy for which I am very grateful.
The clearest message I have received from you however has been that for you, living a richer, juicier life is all about having lots of rich, juicy love in your life, whether that be self-love, love from a significant other, or love from friends and family.
You have made it abundantly clear to me that without love in your life, it just can’t be rich and juicy, and I agree wholeheartedly with that.
So if you want to experience more love in your life in 2017 then this blog is definitely for you.
I am going to combine a little philosophy, a little Feng Shui, a little mindfulness and a little common sense and give you 9 things you can do to create space for more love in your life.
1 Be the change you want to see in your world.
If you want more love in your life, get clear about what love means to you and then be more loving. Start with loving yourself. Love deeply. Act lovingly. Be for yourself what you want to experience from the people you want to share your life with.
2 Clutter clear anything from your space that is not like love and doesn’t make you feel deeply loved.
Whether consciously or unconsciously you have thoughts and feelings about the things you see and hear in your environment and if those things are not stimulating loving thoughts and feelings, let them go or replace them with things that do give you loving thoughts and feelings. Don’t waste a minute of your life putting up with something in your environment that is not helping you to sustain the state of being you want to live in.
3 Let go of anyone in your life who is not loving you or acting lovingly toward you.
In saying this, I want you to go gently here. People are not things and shouldn’t be thrown away like things. So think carefully about the people in your life who are not reflecting love back to you and find out if something can be done to change the nature of your relationship to something more positive. If not then perhaps letting them go is the best thing to do in order to make space for someone who will love you the way you want to be loved.
4 Perform a Space Clearing Ritual
Once you have cleared your clutter it is time to clear your personal and work space of any negative energies and to make space for the new, more loving experiences you want to have using a Space Clearing Ritual.
Indigenous cultures have been practicing space clearing forever and there is a very good reason for it. If you would like to know how to perform a Space Clearing you can email me to get a copy of my personal check list for carrying out this powerful procedure.
5 Set intentions for the year, for each month, for each week and for each day.
Once you think about what you want within each of these time frames, you might be amazed when you start to notice it already exists in your life. This can be described by the frequency illusion (also known as the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon) where people become aware of something and suddenly start seeing it everywhere. Write down what you want to notice more of so that you can recognise it sooner and capitalise on it fully.
In the words of Lucille Ball: “It’s a helluva start, being able to recognise what makes you happy.”
6 Schedule time into your calendar for gratitude.
When you notice the existence of what you want in your life, acknowledge it, capitalise on it, say thank you for it, and celebrate it to the best of your ability.
7 Schedule time into your calendar for what you want.
One of my old bosses used to say that “Nobody plans to fail. They just fail to plan”
Jim Lovell said: “There are people who make things happen, there are people who watch things happen, and there are people who wonder what happened. To be successful, you need to be a person who makes things happen.”
Plan to enjoy a richer, juicier, more loving life. Make what you want happen by scheduling time in your calendar for them to happen.
8 Show up for what you want.
If it is in your calendar, turn up, regardless of how you think it might turn out. If you want to write a book, schedule time in the diary and show up at your computer to write, and do it whether you know what you want to write or not. It might take you a while to work out what you want to write, but if you don’t show up I guarantee you will never get your book written. If you want a more loving relationship and you have scheduled time with a loved one in your diary, be there as best you can in the state you want them to show up in for you.
9 Practice Mindfulness.
Wherever you are, be there. You cannot have a rich, juicy experience in anything if you are not fully present. Be aware that the state of being you are in when you arrive at any moment is going to determine the outcome of your experience in that moment, and it is going to influence anything or anyone else within that environment, so be mindful of being the change you want to experience in your life, wherever you are.
I am so excited about the New Year. I am always excited as we approach New Year because I love taking stock of the wonderful experiences I have enjoyed throughout each previous year and I love anticipating what is possible for the year ahead. We all have so much more power than we realise and I hope you will take the time to consider and adopt these 9 steps for creating the life you really want in 2017. Why shouldn’t you have what you want?
Until next year…
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