Checking in

How often do you ask yourself ‘How am I feeling right now?’

How often do you stop what you are doing to really listen to the answer to that question?

Perhaps you check in all the time without realising.  Perhaps you only do it when you are feeling way out of sorts, or when your world seems to be falling apart around you, and you are forced to acknowledge that something just isn’t right.

Everyone is soooo busy making ends meet these days that stopping to ask yourself how you are feeling might seem a little self-indulgent and essentially a waste of time.

I think checking in is probably the single most important thing you can do for yourself


I think checking in is the best possible thing you can teach your children to do for themselves.

Feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, depression, being up-tight or cranky are all possible signs of being disconnected from your core being.  Overeating, smoking and other addictive behaviours are bigger signs of being disconnected.

I realised recently that I needed to check in with myself more often.  It is amazing what a difference a few seconds can make to my day.  Simply asking myself ‘How am I feeling right now?’, and then stopping to listen to the answer can change the course of my day and move me in a much more positive and much more productive direction.

If my answer lies in the positive range of emotions then I know I’m on the right track.

If my answer is not so positive, or worse, negative, then I simply ask myself ‘What do I need right now?’ and the answer tells me where I need to go next.

This probably seems too simple an act to be of any value, but this very simple move puts me face to face with myself regularly.  It’s really the only place I want to be in my life, and I know without a doubt that it’s the absolute best space from which I can love, honour and value myself.

So, how are you feeling right now?

The Human Race

Nobody starts the human race at the same starting line.  We are all born to different parents with various levels of skill, emotional maturity and intelligence.  We are born into various climates with a variety of opportunities and disadvantages.   We are also born into different political environments which can have a huge influence on our potential as human beings.  There are so many different dynamics involved and yet we still compare ourselves to others and often judge ourselves, or others, to be lacking.

The only person you ever really work on is yourself” ~ Louise L Hay

Accepting that the only person you are ever competing with is yourself can mark a significant turning point in your life.  Recognising your own starting line and your own personal growth and achievements, setting goals that are meaningful to you rather than for the approval of others, making decisions that are best for you and your welfare and your health – be it financial, physical or emotional – these are all attributes of someone who has decided to love and approve of themselves just the way they are.

My wish for you is that you might know the peace that comes from running your own race.

Feng Shui Your Life

For those of you who don’t already know, Feng Shui is the ancient Chinese art of placement and it has been used for thousands of years in the hopes of manipulating the types of experiences an individual or a family might  have in a given environment.

When I do a feng shui consultation, I follow a particular pattern.  First, I endeavour to identify any negative influences in an environment.  Second, I try to eliminate as many of those negative influences as possible using my “feng shui tool box”.  Third, I will attempt to minimise any of the negative or harmful influences that I haven’t been able to eliminate.  Finally, I seek to identify the positive attributes of the property and apply my knowledge of the various schools of feng shui to maximise each and every one of those positive influences to the occupant’s advantage.

Feng Shui’ing Your Life follows much the same process in much the same order.  If you want to make meaningful change in your life, you have to take an objective look at yourself and identify your strengths and weaknesses.  Then you need to put a plan into place that will help you to minimise the negatives, maximise the positives, and make your experience of life more joyous and more successful than you thought possible.