In today’s blog I want to talk about healthy communication and give you 10 rules that will make a positive difference to the way in which you experience challenging discussions.

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Because I work with lots of couples, and because they are usually in a lot of pain by the time they get to me, they have often reached a point in their communication where they are short-cutting the process and going straight from “We need to talk” to yelling profanities at each other. They have forgotten – or given up on – how to have a genuine conversation about the things that matter to them and as a result they feel like they are not having any success.
There seems to be a forgone conclusion that there is no point in trying to have a reasonable discussion because in the past one or both of the partners has felt unheard, disrespected, judged, unimportant, unloved and even resented or hated. Often that has been the consensus for some time so a pattern of unsuccessful communication has been well and truly entrenched.
Today I want to remind – and in some cases educate – couples that it doesn’t have to be this way. There is a way to build or re-build a healthy relationship simply by insisting on raising the standard of communication between you. Once the basic communication between a couple is healthy their issues are often dealt with quite quickly. Continue reading →