James Rohn once said: “Success is something you attract by the person you become.”
So, this week I want to explore the question “Who am I?” and “Who am I becoming?” because how you answer these questions literally dictates the type of experiences you are going to have in your life and no one can have a rich, juicy life if their underlying belief about who they are says something different. Continue reading “Are you a conscious or unconscious creator?”
Last week I shared with you 5 Key Ingredients You Must Have For A Satisfying Relationship That Lasts but there is one more ingredient that trumps all others in terms of keeping us on track and connected in a meaningful way.
One of the things I see many of my clients struggling with is an inbuilt – and deeply ingrained – judgment system that leaves them feeling ripped off, powerless, frustrated and even angry at times, so I wanted to talk about how a simple shift in the way we judge the people and circumstances of our lives can relieve us of those all-consuming feelings of injustice and instead move us into a place where we have a whole set of choices we didn’t know we had before.
It occurred to me recently that there is really only ever one reason why any of us might not have what we want in our lives and that is because we are not open to it. Not really.
Today’s blog is for anyone who feels like their dreams are alluding them, out of their reach or just not attainable for them, including dreams of that special love, a dream job, a successful business, enough money for your wants as well as your needs, a happy, harmonious family, healthy, cooperative children, your own home, enough money to retire on, a slim, healthy body, or anything else you can think of that matters to you.
You might feel like you have been chasing any one of these things for a long time without success and you might be thinking about giving up on your dreams. Perhaps you’ve already given up. But please, don’t give up just yet. Read on and see if what I have to say is the difference between you wanting something and having it.
I met with a friend and colleague recently to discuss the idea of the two of us co-writing a book about raising resilient children. We’d worked together a couple of years ago delivering an 11-week course in resilience skills to 4 grades of teenage boys at a Flexi-School on the north side of Brisbane and we very quickly realised how like-minded we were in our approach to the program and in our understanding of emotional development.
As we explored the topics we wanted to cover and the philosophies and practices we wanted to include in our book, we both agreed that the most important thing any of us can probably do for ourselves, and possibly the only thing we have any real control over, is
to consciously raise our own vibration to such a degree that we literally vibrate above the drama in life.
My husband had a reaction to a herd of wasp bites recently which ended up in a visit to our local hospital where all ended well, but we had a little adventure along the way that wasn’t so pleasant and it could have been so different had those involved been just a fraction kinder and more mindful of their impact on others.
Purpose gives meaning to life in a huge way and meaning gives depth to our experiences which is what makes our life rich and juicy.
Do you know what your purpose is?
I remember many years ago hearing a motivation speaker pointing out that de-sire can be broken down to mean ‘of God’ and I realised I’d had a program running that told me it was selfish to desire something because when I heard that it was like I’d been given permission to have my wants without any guilt or shame. It was a totally liberating experience to say the least.
To live a rich, juicy life, you have to listen to your heart and live from that place, so imagine the inner conflict and turmoil that exists if you are brought up to believe that you are selfish for wanting something for yourself?
Have you ever been judged and ridiculed by someone who’s opinion you valued? Maybe it was a girlfriend, a family member or possibly even a significant other.
I shared an opinion during this week that one of my ‘friends’ decided needed correcting. This ‘friend’ assumed where I was coming from rather than asking me what I meant, and then she became my personal judge and jury. And she did it all in front of an audience of her peers.
Apparently my hypocrisy needed to be exposed. Well thank you very much for taking it upon yourself to do that for me but if I wanted you to do that I would have asked.